Valentines’ Day is a holiday that many people don’t take too seriously, but you simply can’t avoid it all together and do nothing, or else you’d be in big trouble with your loved one.
So, we typically don’t pay much attention to the holiday until the week before (or a few days before) as our anxiety about “what to do”, or “what to buy” starts to creep up. Chocolate? That’s cliché. Jewelry? OK. But still cliché. The list is long for the many, guilt-reducing, obligatory, gift ideas but nothing really seems to feel right.
SNL did a skit a few weeks ago on the ridiculousness of some of our Valentine’s gifts. It made me think about what would be a really great Valentine’s Day gift. It’s a holiday that is supposed to be honoring your significant other – a way of saying “I love you” on this particular day.
The Best Valentine’s Day Gift of All
What if you saved your money on buying some cheesy, cliché, not-very-thoughtful gift from CVS this year and invited your significant other into marriage counseling? I truly can’t imagine a more thoughtful and significant way of showing your spouse that you really care about them, and your relationship.
Participating in marriage counseling says, “you matter to me”, and “our relationship matters to me”.
Every relationship could benefit greatly from marriage counseling – even the best ones. Despite commonly held cultural beliefs about counseling, it’s not just for the “messed up”. Many of my clients are incredibly high functioning, sophisticated, and emotionally intelligent people who find the benefit in marriage counseling because they are always wanting to take their relationship to the next level.
So, instead of letting another year go by, and another uneventful, obligatory Valentine’s Day pass with a box a heart-shaped chocolates, maybe this Valentine’s Day you want to say “I love you” in the most meaningful way possible, by scheduling an appointment with a really great marital therapist.
Please let us know if you need help finding a qualified therapist – w’ed be happy to connect you with some of Orange County’s best.
